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The private life of a blogger

25 01 2011 / BY Brunette Blogging

Every blogger is different. We might all be in the same “business”, but every person has different ideas and a unique personality. That’s what makes life interesting, and that’s why every blog is different, mainly because the personality of the blogger is shining through. When you’re officially a blogger, there are certain things that will happen to you when your blog is a few months old – things you may not have foreseen. It’s possible your confidence will grow (You no longer care that people stare when you’re taking pictures in public. I mean, you’re working here!), maybe your style will evolve and you’ll probably make some blogger friends. All is good, all is great. Or maybe not. Like everything in life, there are some tricky parts to deal with. As a blogger you share a part of your life, but some people may think that that’s not enough. How do you draw the line between your blogging and private life?

Bloggers are like celebrities.
Let me clarify what I mean. It’s a well-known fact that celebs have to be very careful with their private life. They seek attention, because it helps their career, but they also get stalked by paparazzi. Not fun. You may say that it’s their own fault and that they’ve often brought it on themselves (which is probably true in some cases). Bloggers are – in a way – similar to celebrities. We seek attention, because it helps our blog. Therefore we’ll use social media such as Facebook and Twitter, because it helps spreading the word. However, there is a big part of our lives we don’t want to share with the whole world. As a blogger, you may also encounter some readers who really do want to know more about your life – more than what you choose to put out there on your blog. I believe we all are entitled to choose what we’d like to keep private and what we’d like to share. Yes, you may say it’s “teasing” people when you put certain parts of your life online, but that still doesn’t mean that everyone has the right to know every embarrassing childhood story or when you first kissed.

Think before you share.
Now, before you start thinking that I feel like a celebrity or have thousands of crazy fans, I’d just like to state that is not the case. This post is more about some feelings regarding privacy I have been experiencing last week. There were a lot of things happening at once – to me & my blog – that were fun and exciting. Yet there’s also a little voice inside my head  that says – watch out, be careful! On one hand, I’d love to share every amazing thing that happens immediately. My rational side says it’s better to wait a while and think about it, see how everything works out. This is hard (’cause who doesn’t want to share potentially good news?), but I do believe this is better. Just imagine how you’ll feel when these things don’t work out the way you’d expected. You’ll be happy that it’s not on the Internet and now you can sob and feel bad without anyone knowing about it :)

Facebook Friends – Yay or Nay?
Blogging and social media go hand in hand. If we see people have “liked” our page or start following us, we’re happy. But what if a reader wants to add you as a Facebook Friend? Don’t take it personal, but for me that’s one step too far. Not that I share tons of juicy info on Facebook, it’s just a place I’d like to reserve for friends, family and acquaintances.
For me, Twitter is the perfect medium to connect with your readers. They can ask you questions, you can respond pretty quickly and people still get to know you on a different level. Twitpics of your lunch, confessing your favorite Beverly Hills character, sneak peeks of upcoming posts – it’s all there for your pleasure, readers!

So there you have it, that’s how I feel. Another piece of thought I was happy to share with you all :) Like always, I’d also love to hear what you think of this matter!


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  • http://thehouseintheclouds.blogspot.com Fabienne Jach

    I absolutely agree. It’s no different than when I’m at work. I share certain aspects of my life with enthusiasm but I choose what I share mindfully. You can always add more to a story later but there’s no erasing what you put out there.

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  • lorena

    I think you hit right on the spot.
    I loved your point of view on this subject as indeed I think of some bloggers (not I) as celebrities.
    If I ran into someone I follow I would be like “huhhhh what do I do ??”
    Personally I think blog+fb is sharing too much – specially if your life is not just about blogging …

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  • http://www.trophyboutique.com Laurel

    I love this article and am familiar with the weirdness of blogging and the importance of having boundaries. I just have way too low self-esteem to think anyone would be interested in more about my life than is already out there though!
    So wanna be facebook friends now? :)

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  • http://o-my-heart.blogspot.com Kate

    I really, really liked this! It’s all so true! It’s always so difficult to know how much to share, and I often go back and read what I’ve written to try to see what exactly it is I’m saying about myself & my life. It’s hard to know how you come across & what information you’ve shared! I think you’ve made some great points here!

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  • http://www.thesprinklesonacupcake.blogspot.com petra

    Superleuke post!! Ik denk er net zo over.
    Ik vind dat je als blogger het recht hebt om te doen en laten wat je wilt, posten wat en wanneer je wilt, en hoeveel info je vrijgeeft. Uiteindelijk moet je je er zelf goed bij voelen!!

  • http://elleenchanted.blogspot.com Elle

    Great post. I’ve found I was a lot more personal when I first started blogging and have actually had to go back and edit posts because I realized I wasn’t comfortable sharing certain things- to remain a level of anonymousness (wow it’s a word… I think). I have to say as I’ve gained more readers- I share less and less beyond the basics. (I don’t even divulge the city I live in or my last name for these very reasons- that and I never have). it’s a good thing to think about.

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  • Tiffany

    love the facebook part


  • http://stylingdutchman.blogspot.com annebeth

    weer een heel leuk geschreven stukje :) Ik ben niet zo moeilijk met privacy eigenlijk, ik ben echt zo’n internetgeek en ik spendeer UREN op het internet, dus voor mij is het internet en het echte leven qua vrienden enzo grotendeels versmolten. Ik heb veel van m’n vrienden leren kennen op het internet en nu horen ze bij mijn privé leven. En ik ben niet zo’n geheimzinnig persoon, van mij mag iedereen alles weten over mij :D Maar ik snap perfect dat sommige mensen daar problemen mee hebben. Je moet je gewoon bewust zijn van wat je doet op het internet, denk ik.

  • RosaLovesDC

    I really enjoyed all your recent posts about blogging. I am a new blogger and your advice and points of view in all these privacy, blogging perks, etc, have incredibly helpful.

  • Erin

    Hey! I just want to say that your blog has made my craving (strange word to use but it’s true I do have a craving to start a blog) for blogging even stronger. I am really interested in fashion and blogging but I think I might be a bit young to start. Do you think there is an age that is the right age to start blogging? I have seen some famous blogs by people younger than me but I don’t know. What do you think?

    • http://brunetteblogging.com brunetteblogging

      If you’re as old as the number in your e-mail address tells me (17), then I think you’re not too young at all. In fact, if you have a passion and interest for fashion it’s good to start practicing early. You can learn a lot from it and it can really help you improve your writing or knowledge. You can start off slow and see what kind of posts you’re comfortable with. Test it out (start with a free blog first) & play around with it and you’ll find out soon enough if it’s something you like. Good luck!

      • Erin

        Thanks for the advice! :D I’m actually 15, (17 is my favourite number) do you think that 15 is an alright age? I really want to start blogging so I can use it as a creative outlet to share my love for fashion.
        Thanks for replying x

        • http://brunetteblogging.com brunetteblogging

          15 seems fine too. Different ages can bring different aspects to the (fashion) table, so why not? :)

  • http://www.absolutelymrsk.blogspot.com Absolutely Mrs. K

    Again a great article about the world of blogging. Were d you get these ideas. I follow your blog frequently because I love to read your articles. I can never say it enough, keep on writing. go girl

  • http://tashrin.blogspot.com Tashrin

    This is something that I’m at war with constantly. I have written many posts, only to have deleted them a few seconds later because I really do not want to divulge that much after all.

    I guess it is a very personal struggle for all of us and we have to take it one step at a time and one day at a time.

    Look forward to hearing from you


    Tashrin – A Toronto based personal style blog

  • http://www.cutexcoco.blogspot.com Tasja

    Ten eerste: je schrijft echt geweldig goed! Ik weet dat mn engels niet goed is.. maar vergeleken met jou is het echt holbewoner engels ~.~’
    Dit soort posts en je persoonlijkheid zijn de reden dat ik zo dol ben op je blog ^^ Duss.. keep on the good work!
    En ben heel benieuwd wat het goede nieuws is :)

    En tja ik weet niet.. dit slaat niet echt op mij (totaal niet beroemd haha)
    Maar ergens kan ik het me ook wel voorstellen..
    Persoonlijk vind ik het heel eng om facebook of twitter te gebruiken als middel om mn blog te promoten. (sowieso mn blog promoten vind ik moeilijk.. ik ben niet zo een “oeh kijk mij”-persoon ~.~)

    Een keer vond ik het echt heel eng dat er voor-mijn-kleine-blog-echt-belachelijk-veel bezoekers binnen een uur mijn blog hadden bezocht via twitter. Nou heb ik zelf geen twitter en vond het best wel eng dat ik eigenlijk niet wist wat er gezegd was. Straks was het iets als: “Omg check her ugly blog *link*” ofzo. In ieder geval mijn punt is: toen vond ik mezelf best wel “naakt”. Zomaar al die mensen die mn blog bezocht hadden en hun oordeel hadden geveld.
    En toen had ik door dat, ook al had ik geen persoonlijke dingen online gezet, de blog alleen al best wel persoonlijk is..

    • http://www.cutexcoco.blogspot.com Tasja

      ik praat teveel ~.~”

      • http://brunetteblogging.com brunetteblogging

        Hoi! Heel erg lief van je :) Het goede nieuws maak ik zeker bekend als “het” moment daar is! Stay tuned :)
        Ik kan het Twitter verhaal begrijpen, in het begin was het voor mij ook wel een beetje scary, vooral als je niet weet vanwaar het komt of wat er gezegd wordt. Maar je moet niet altijd van het negatieve uitgaan, misschien was het wel zoiets van “superleuke blog, neem zeker eens een kijkje!” :)
        Alleszins bedankt voor je lieve comment & voor het lezen van de blog! Vind het leuk om mijn lezers wat beter te leren kennen!

  • http://polienne.blogspot.com Paulien

    Ik ben het hier zo hard mee eens! Nooit gedacht dat ik ooit lezers zou hebben die opeens met mij willen afspreken of zelfs voorstellen om mijn outfitfoto’s te maken! Ik vind het allemaal maar een beetje raar en probeer het dus ook zoveel mogelijk te vermijden… I mean: ik heb zelfs maar 200 volgers en een klets! Wat moeten al die ‘grote’ bloggers dan meemaken!

    Je schrijft écht goed trouwens.

  • http://www.arashmazinani.com Arash Mazinani

    Great post, I think all bloggers want their blog to become successful and part of doing that means you have to try and cast your net wide. Meaning be on twitter, facebook etc What you end up sharing on your blog then is down to yourself at the end of the day you’re in control of your content and can choose how much you want to disclose about your personal life.


  • http://www.plumsandpearls.com Jovian

    Oh my goodness, I could not agree any more! I do feel bad when people request me as a friend on facebook but I’m glad you put it out there that it IS one step too far. I LOVE TWITTER! The minimum amount of characters let you spill out just enough to entice followers but not enough for you to share every detail which is a good privacy control thing for all of us. I love your blog posts about “blogging” – it helps me out so much. You really need to go into teaching Bloggers101 or something. Love your insightful tips and advice.

    xoxo, Jovian


    • http://brunetteblogging.com brunetteblogging

      Haha :) thank you! Still waiting on that business offer ;)

  • http://whateveragogo.wordpress.com Catherine Kosters

    Now I am curious about the potentially good news :) No, I think it’s totally understandable that you don’t want to share everything, anytime. But the fact that you are even musing on privacy problems must mean that you are getting famous yourself, or at least big in Belgium! Just two sides to the same medal, I guess.

    • http://brunetteblogging.com brunetteblogging

      When the time is right, I will definitely share the good news!

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