You’re no one until someone hates you. Sad, but often true. When you, as one tiny person in this whole wide world, achieve success, you automatically become an easy target. It doesn’t matter if you poured your heart and soul into a project and you really love it, if you are an actor, singer, CEO or -surprise- blogger, people who want to criticize you, can and will. The question is – how do you deal with the haters?
Let’s put the spotlight on bloggers. Even though, as mentioned above, there isn’t that much difference between popular bloggers and famous actors or singers. It’s all about the fact that you’re doing something you love and you’re putting yourself out there. This creates a certain vulnerability. Your success is mainly based on what people think of you, if they like you or not. If you have a certain talent, you’ll probably get a lot of love. Fans will scream if they see you and they might even throw their panties at you (although in the case of the blogger, I don’t really see this happening any time soon. Someone might virtually send you a picture of their panties though, beware when you open that fan mail! ^^). But as we all know, people can be mean. Really mean.
The reason why I’m writing this, is not because I’m suddenly receiving a ton of hate mail or get rotten tomatoes thrown at me when I go outside, but because I’m intrigued by this subject and often wonder what effect it has on the bloggers that are being hated. A few weeks ago, we talked about this subject at the bloggers meet in Antwerp and we were all pretty disgusted by the fact that there are hate groups on Facebook against certain bloggers. I realize that this is not uncommon, and that there are a lot of “hate groups” out there, I just want to take a moment to reflect.
What would you do if YOU are the one that’s being hated? Chiara from The Blonde Salad doesn’t seem to mention anything (ever) about the haters, she just ignores them and deletes rude comments on her Facebook page or blog. Andy from Stylescrapbook often lets out her anger on Twitter, saying that rude anonymous commenters are weak, and should have the guts to come out and say their real name. Ashley from Ring My Bell (she’s bad-ass) is not one to be messed with. She calls them out personally if she can and even publishes the rude comments on her blog, because she wants to show the world what kind of twisted things are being said.
I think that all of the above, mixed into one can be a good way to deal with this matter. Most of all, it’s important to not let it kill your drive and to stay focused on the positive. After all, you’re the one living the dream and the “anonymous” one is just a sad little person behind a computer, too scared to reveal their real identity.
All I want to say is this: haters, next time you’re thinking about writing a shitty comment somewhere or think that it’s a good idea to create a website or Facebook page that is just entirely based on negativity, think about how you would feel if you were the one that was being picked on. Doesn’t sound all that fun, right? I’d say, go use that energy for something that can actually turn this world into a better place. I’m done with my preach, stay positive folks! ;)