10 05 2011 / BY Brunette Blogging
Listen up people, it is I, the almighty god of blogging. She who has no name, she who you will obey. She who… oh what the hell, it’s just me *waves* trying to pose as the god of blogging. Today I have written down some commandments; things I consider to be important when it comes to blogging and life. You can choose to obey them or not (’cause I’m a nice god), in any case I hope they will entertain you just a bit…
“Thou shall not steal”
This one’s worth mentioning first. If you have ever been in the situation where someone stole one of your belongings, let’s say your wallet, then it’s not hard to imagine how awful you feel at that moment. You want to kick, punch or stab (you KNOW I’m tough enough to do this, right?) the person who did this to you, but you also have this excruciating feeling of helplessness since there is no way of knowing who took it. The same – sort of – feeling will come over you when you find out that someone’s been stealing your content and claiming that it is completely their own. No reference to your blog, nothing, zero, nada. The only upside here is that you have the power of the word and you can alert people of this blog thief. First things first, however: you can also kindly ask if the person wants to take down the “stolen” content. It may get you further than stabbing them.
“Thou shall not brag”
This one is quite tricky. You see, if you are a blogger and you get invited to events, or you become a superstar blogger, you may, on occasions get treated with goodies. This is all kinds of fun. But that should absolutely not be the main reason why you’re blogging. Now, why is the sharing of the goodies tricky? Most people like to show off a bit and share some of the good stuff that is happening to you because of your blog. You’re quite proud of yourself for reaching a certain level of success and you feel like there’s no harm in sharing this with your followers. This is usually pretty harmless but there can be a few downsides to this story. Be careful that you don’t come off as a greedy b*tch who’s constantly showing off free stuff. There’s sharing and being happy, or just plain bragging about free swag. Second downside? People around you – who have no idea how much time and effort it takes to maintain a decent blog – see this free stuff and respond: “Oh wow, maybe I should start a blog too!” Honestly the.most.annoying.phrase.ever. So what is the lesson here? Blog because you like it, if it’s your hobby or if you feel passionate about it and want to turn it into a job, not ’cause you want free mascara.
“Thou shall not give up”
Stay positive, believe in yourself and work hard. These words could come directly out of a self-help book, but they’re quite true. If you’re serious about making a certain dream come true (in my case, this is related to my blog), it’s important to be persistent since luck & success will not fall into your lap just like that. Now, I may sound all tough and confident, but I hope you realize that I’m also writing these commandments for myself. This blogging road has been bumpy for me, with many ups and downs but I try to keep moving forward and most of all, work my freakin’ ass off to make it into something I can be proud of.
“Thou shall not stay behind your computer”
Sometimes, it’s all about who you know. You may have the best goddamn blog (oops, am I allowed to swear when I’m writing commandments? Oh hell, I already talked about stabbing people) there is, if you are not spreading the on- and offline word, not a lot of people will visit. Connections will get you far into this world, so network, network, network! I know it can be scary to go to an event where you may not know a lot of people, but surely if you’re nice and polite – and crack an inappropriate joke or two -, you’ll have someone to talk to.
“Thou shall not be a bitch”
This one seems to be difficult for some people. How to not be a bitch? It shouldn’t have to be a difficult task, either you are one or you’re not. I’m simply putting this one in here because I believe in being kind and reasonable. Some people (not only bloggers) who have been in this industry for too long, start thinking they’re really, really important and therefore think that certain people aren’t worthy to talk to. Some tips to deal with these kind of “like-super-like-important-like-fashion-people-like-ohmaggoooddd!”: Don’t necessarily be a bitch to them. Your best bet is to be neutral, don’t pay too much attention to them and do your own thing. One day, you may have to work together and then you can feel good about the fact that you were always friendly & polite.